Hello, I’m a 15 y/o girl who has a girlfriend. We’ve been together for 5 months. But I’ve known her for 3 years. We both feel that if we have sex we’ll get closer. The thing is I feel guilty about thinking of having sex. Plus my girlfriend isn’t a virgin and I’m afraid I’ll disappoint her because I am a virgin. My question is should I have sexto bring us closer ? Anything Helps.

It’s great that you’re taking your time deciding whether or not you’re ready to have sex. Only you can decide when you’re ready. There’s no right or wrong time, and there’s definitely no rush, no matter how many months you’ve been with someone. These are some helpful things to think about when trying to figure out if you’re ready for sex.

Here are some more ideas that may help you: You said that thinking about having sex makes you feel guilty. It could help you to figure out why that is. Try writing down your feelings about that. Do you have religious or moral beliefs that say you should wait until later to have sex? Do you feel guilty because you’re new to dating girls? Are you hiding your relationship from your friends or family? The answers to these questions may tell you more about what’s going on in your head and heart and could help you figure out what to do.

It sounds like you and your girlfriend have already talked a little bit about having sex. That’s a really good thing to do before getting all caught up in the heat of the moment – especially so you can get prepared with everything you need to practice safer sex. But before you guys start having sex, try sharing your feelings with her about being less experienced with sex. You’ll probably find out that she doesn’t care about that and still wants to be with you. But either way, if you want to do something to be closer to someone, there’s no better way than to be totally honest and open about your feelings. It’s even better than sex.

-Emily at Planned Parenthood