Apparently the clit turns you on, so where is it? I’ve seen pictures and read things but can never actually find it. Do I even have one? 

The clitoris is a pretty awesome little organ. It doesn’t have a central role in reproduction like the penis or vagina — it’s basically just there to make you feel good! The clitoris has thousands of nerve endings in it, which makes it super sensitive. And for a lot of people, it can be too intense to touch directly. So it can take a little time to figure out how you like your clitoris to be touched.

It can be a little tricky to find your clitoris, since it’s tucked inside your inner labia, underneath its own little protective hood. For some people the clitoris is easily visible and accessible, and for others it’s really hidden under the hood – everyone’s vulva is unique. If you’re a visual learner, you can check out our interactive diagrams of the vulva for a sense of how things are organized down there. The clitoris can vary in size, but only the tip of it can be seen at the top of the vulva. When you’re aroused, your clitoris becomes stiff and swollen — just like the penis. Fun fact about the clitoris: while you can only see the very tip of it, it actually has a spongy shaft that stretches up to more than five inches inside your body.