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I am straight, i have only been with guys i am not sexual or attracted to girls at all. but i have had the thought of making out with a girl for a very long time. just to try it. is this normal? my boyfriend thinks it would be hot and has assured me its ok for me to feel this way. what do you think?
Your feelings are normal.
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and straight are sexual orientations. Our sexual orientation is about who we’re attracted to sexually. A woman who is sexually attracted to other women often calls herself a lesbian. A man who is sexually attracted to other men often calls himself gay. People who are attracted to both women and men often called themselves bisexual. And people who are attracted to people of the other sex often call themselves straight.
Why do we say “often”? Because some people don’t think these labels describe them accurately. Some people don’t like the idea of labels at all. It can take many years for people to figure out their sexual orientation. Questioning means people are not sure of their sexual orientation or gender identity. This is normal, and it’s very common — especially for teenagers.
People are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or straight to varying degrees. In the 1940s and 50s, Dr. Alfred Kinsey designed a scale for measuring the degree of sexual orientation. It’s called the Kinsey scale. He used the numbers 0–6 to describe the varying degrees of sexual orientation. People still use the Kinsey scale numbers to describe the degree of their own or another person’s sexual orientation:
0 — only attracted to the other sex
1 — usually attracted to the other sex, but attracted to the same sex once in a while
2 — usually attracted to the other sex, but attracted to the same sex more than once in a while
3 — equally attracted to both sexes
4 — usually attracted to the same sex, but attracted to the other sex more than once in a while
5 — usually attracted to the same sex, but attracted to the other sex once in a while
6 — only attracted to the same sex
The only people who don’t fall somewhere on the Kinsey scale are those who are not attracted to anyone. These folks are often called asexual.