So. . .I’m 15 years old. I’m in 10th grade I go to a public High School. I Have always been that girl who has the boyfriend everyone wants and I cheered and now I play Rugby. I have been dating this guy for almost a year and a half. And I think I’m lesbian. I have strong feelings for this guy, but being with a girl for me tops being with a guy. How do I tell him this? How would I tell my mom? Please I need Advice.
Telling people you’re gay (coming out) is a very personal decision. While it can strengthen and deepen relationships and improve self-esteem, it can be a very scary thing. In some situations, it can even be risky. Only you can decide if and when to come out, to whom, and how to do it.
The best way to decide whether to talk with your boyfriend and mom is to ask yourself these questions:
Exploring these questions may help you be clear about your sexuality in your own mind before coming out to your boyfriend and mom.
This is a very tough topic.
I have never truly “come out” to everyone.
I’ve always joked about my sexuality with my friends and family but I think most of them see it as just joking.
My brother knows that I am a lesbian because he caught me making out with my gf when I was 15 but he has never told anyone. I am fortunate to have an older brother who values me enough to keep my secret.
Sometimes when I am with my mom or certain friends and we are watching tv or something I’ll say “Wow that chick is hot! I’d totally do her” or something along those lines, people are not uncomfortable with it because they expect those comments from me. The problem is, they think I am joking. I would never be able to actually talk about my sexuality with them.
Do I wish that everyone knew my true sexual orientation? Yes.
It is satisfying to know you can be who you are without having to hide any part of you.
There is a movie called Prayers for Bobby. It is about a young man who comes out to his over conservative family. This movie is powerful.
I think it would be nice if maybe you and your mom sat down and watched it together, then after the movie tell her what you want to tell her. I think that with your moms help you can decide how to come out to other people.
Best of luck to you.
My advice to you is to sit your mother down and talk to her first. If shes anything like mines shes going to be upset at first then shes going to have to except who you are because she loves you. But one thing you cant do is rush yourself wait until you think your ready to come out. Thats where i messed up I didn’t tell my mom she found out herself and she asked me about it. I wasn’t ready to talk to her about it with her but i had to it was already out. But if your like these other girls out here its probly just a phase. You will know if your a lesbian or not. So just take your time to come out its no rush you have your whole life.