I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and we are sexually active. When my mom found condoms in my room she just took them away and never said anything, this made me uncomfortable with talking to her about sex. I know I should be on the pill for extra protection(and cramps) but my mom is too closed minded to get it for me. Is there any way planned parenthood could help to get cheap(or free) birth control without her knowing?

In general, parental permission is not needed for prescription methods of birth control like the pill. However, there may be certain locations where, for one reason or another, a health care provider will require parental permission. Check with your provider about her or his policy.

The pill is up to 99.7 percent effective against pregnancy when used correctly. But because the pill offers no protection against sexually transmitted infections, using the pill and a latex or female condom can greatly reduce the risk of both pregnancy and infection.

Planned Parenthood provides reproductive health care services that include information, contraception, testing, and education about a full range of options to women, men, and teens across the country. Planned Parenthood’s policy is to protect client confidentiality to the extent the law allows. Laws may vary from state to state.

Planned Parenthood works to make health care accessible and affordable. Some health centers are able to charge according to income. Most accept health insurance. If you qualify, Medicaid or other state programs may lower your health care costs. Call your local Planned Parenthood health center to get specific information about costs and the laws in your state.

Some teens find it intimidating or embarrassing to talk with their parents about sex. If and when you’re ready to bring it up to your mom, you could try using a magazine article or TV show as a jumping-off point to start the conversation. It may take more than one conversation about this issue before you feel comfortable disclosing information about your personal feelings and intentions.

Think about giving your mom a heads-up by scheduling your talk in advance. Just say something like, “Can we have a private talk tonight?” If you’re nervous, it’s okay to say so! Break the ice with something like, “This feels weird for me to talk about, and it may be for you, too, but I want to ask about …”

Learn more about talking with your parents about sex.